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I Love the Good Ol’ Days

Do you know someone who loves “The Good Ol’ Days”? You know them…the “reminiscers”. They are always talking in terms of “remember when”? They are usually daydreaming about a time that was better than “now”. Maybe that person is you? Perhaps you have recently started mending from an emotional set-back, like I blogged about previously.

When you are going through emotional turmoil, it is natural to be very conscious of your past. Perhaps a former partner was part of the turmoil. Perhaps, it was someone else. Things were so good before, at the beginning. Why couldn’t your life be like it was then? You were the perfect couple. Or, you were best friends. Then things changed. There are all those things that they did to hurt you…All things that they should have done…All the negative moments…You think about them, play them over and over in your mind, and sometimes it seems like it happened only yesterday. If only….

For you, the past is comfortable. It is something that you are familiar with, even if it was not something worth remembering. You kinda like remembering how badly this person treated you. It fuels your right to be angry with them~to hold that grudge. It fuels your right to think of them as a cad for ruining a perfectly good relationship.

My question to you is this: Is it worth it? Holding onto the past just pulls you away from moving forward. It draws you away from your goals, dreams and aspirations. You put your energies into something that may not bring you any rewards. Actually, I can almost guarantee that you won’t be rewarded by dwelling on your past. You should certainly learn from it, though!

Sure, the future is unknown. Sure, there will be challenges. Yes, there will be days that you may not want to get out of bed because you are scared whitless by some of the daunting tasks ahead of you. But remember, life’s a journey, not a destination. Small steps taken over time will eventually achieve big results.

Shake the shackles. Your future is waiting!

 May Your Cup Always Be Full,

Emerging Princess

I’ll Take 2 Advil and a Fetal Position, Please

 When we have a headache, or even sore muscles, taking 2 Advil is an acceptable thing to do. Have you ever been hurt so badly, you want to take 2 Advil, curl up into a ball and suck your thumb? There are many sayings about human suffering…the world would be perfect, except for humans! While pain is an inevitable part of our existence, coping with pain is not something that we all do well.

When I coach people, the first thing that I suggest to my clients is for them address their perspective on pain. This is something that is really helped by journaling time. Each night before going to bed, write your feelings. Write what you are angry about, what you can find that is good, just write. Don’t correct grammar or spelling. Be completely transparent. After two weeks of journalling, take a look at your journal entries. How is your pain showing through? There may entries about the person that caused you the pain like, “John was so unreasonable again today. He wouldn’t come to an amicable settlement for the kids.” When you read the entries, are things always being done to you?

When I first left my former partner, I stayed in that mode for a while. “He did this”, or “He won’t agree to that”. Playing the victim was so easy. I got pity from the world as a victim. My favourite saying to people in recovery is this, “Being a victim can get you many things for free, but it won’t give you your freedom”.

I now ask you, can you make some choices to change the outcomes that you get? If you look at your pain in a different light, can you see that it can be a catalyst for change in your life? Your pain can be used to help other people through the same thing that you went through.

Remember, you cannot have a triumph without a trial. As you journal, try to look for positive ways to look at your pain. It can help take away some of the sting. Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” Advil doesn’t have to be your best friend!

May Your Cup Always Be Full,

Emerging Princess

Dreams DeMystified!

 

This is priceless!  🙂

There’s a Label for That…

She’s a bit strange. He’s a hustler. I’m having a bad hair day. She’s divorced.  He’s got a disability.

Tags, or labels, as a society, we live with them. There are some labels that I love to wear~adventurous (a new one for me), loyal and sympathetic are a few. Being a divorcee was a label that I didn’t want to wear. How often do we put a label on things that we do not understand? Or things that we have a previous experience with, be it negative or positive?

Labels can hold us back from having a meaningful or enjoyable experience. Have you ever been invited to a party, and figured that you were not going to have a good time based on the host, or even the location? Do you believe cannot achieve something based on your experience or training? Have you labeled yourself as being an underachiever, or even unlucky? (By the previous statement, I am not saying that you can be doctor or lawyer without finishing the necessary training.)

Many labels are not flattering. They may have been given to us as far back as childhood. Living up to them, or shaking them can cause us undue stress and negativity. These tags may not have been given to us by someone who even knew us well, or had our best interests at heart. They may have been jealous, or spiteful when they labeled us. And yet, we will go through our lives living in the box that these people have built for us.

We only get one go at this life. Second chances sometimes come our way, but we don’t have to wait for those. We an take the hand that we are dealt now, and look at life through our eyes, not someone else’s.

A lot of the things that I blog about are not easy. However, looking at life through your own eyes, ensures that you can take the credit for your actions. And, wouldn’t it be great to have that smug assurance that you were called an underachiever, but became a philanthropist and a millionaire?

Philanthropist. Millionaire. I’ll take that label!

May Your Cup Always Be Full,

Emerging Princess

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