My Dirty Little Secret

This is the first Theological Thursday post, written from a Christian viewpoint.

Can I tell you a secret?  I am a LOVE junkie!  I guess that means that I am a hopeless romantic.  I love holding hands as I walk on the beach with my special someone (I call him

English: Michael Buble walks the Red Carpet at...

English: Michael Buble walks the Red Carpet at the 2009 Junos in Vancouver, Canada (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

MiLove).  I love receiving flowers and chocolates.  I love listeniing to sappy Barry ManilowMichael Buble  or smooth jazz songs as I talk to him about our future.

Now can I make another confession?  I do not have an actual PHYSICAL person named MiLove that I do all of this with.  No, I do NOT have a blow-up toy, either!  I could say that it’s Jesus, but that would be so cliche.  Due to my faith, I’m SUPPOSED to love Him.  The brutal truth is, to many people, I am a love failure.  I’ve committed the ultimate love-sin.  I chose~dun, dun, dun~divorce.  Gasp!

Blasphemy!  How dare she write about love when she hasn’t even succeeded in that department?  May I suggest something else?  May I offer you the idea that there is no such thing as failure.  There is only feedback.  I learned this in my NLP training (and it is one of the main tenets).  Would you take financial advice only from someone who has been lucky financially?  Or would you also want to learn from someone who has gotten up again after losing it all?  I’d say that most people think Donald Trump is a financial success.  I now know what NOT to do in my next relationship.  Letting go of that guilt has been so freeing.  The Bible says that, “Though a RIGHTEOUS man (note that word) falls seven times, he rises again; but the wicked are brought down by calamity”,  Proverbs 24:16.

See, there were signs, many as big as a jumbotron, which warned me about my poor marriage choice.  I chose to ignore them, and I paid the price…I fell.  Does that mean that I should suffer indefinitely?  Some believe that you should fight tooth and nail for your man.  And I did, until I ran out of energy.  I believe, “He will not lead you, where He won’t keep you”, (Jackie Cherill).   I know that Christ died to forgive the sins of a murderer, and he also died to forgive a divorcee.  Sin is sin in God’s eyes.  He has also used me more in my three years of singleness than in the 23 years of my previous life.

So, although I could be jaded by my past, I am enjoying my present, and am anticipating my future.  My hopes and dreams still exist for finding the person that I can share the

Love ? I love love love you.

Love ? I love love love you. (Photo credit: @Doug88888)

romantic scenes that I described  previously.

I’m up for an adventure.  I will explore love~the way Christ wanted it to be.  If you’re looking to follow an unconventional love adventure, I invite you to come on my journey as I talk about Love, MiLove, and the Lover of My Soul.

May Your Cup Always Be Full,

Stephanie, Emerging Princess


Wacky Wednesday I

As I’m watching The Hobbit  (a bit at a time), I thought I’d resurrect this Wacky Wednesday post.



Pursue Your Passions & Live Your Legacy,

Stephanie, Emerging Princess

The Rose Within


rose (Photo credit: alice_ling)

I don’t know where I first saw this post.  I’m an avid gardener, and loved the imagery that is woven throughout.  Enjoy!

A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully, and before it blossomed, he examined it.

He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, “How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns?”  Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom…it died.

So it is with many people.  Within every soul there is a rose.  The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults.  Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.

We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us.  We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies.  We never realize our potential.

Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them.  One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within.

This is one of the characteristics of love…to look at a person, knowing their true faults and accepting that person into your life…all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. 

Help others to realize they can overcome their faults.  If we show them the “rose” within themselves, they will conquer their thorns.  Only then will they blossom many times over… 

Do you look for the good in others?  I welcome your comments!

May Your Cup Always Be Full,

Stephanie, Emerging Princess


I Choose


 I woke up early today, excited about all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight.

I have responsibilities to fulfill today. My job is to choose what kind of day I’m going to have.

I can complain because the weather is rainy, or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

Today I can cry because roses have thorns, or I can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today I can whine because I have a job, or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do!

Today I can feel sad that I don’t have more money, or be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely, and to guide me away from waste.

Today I can grumble about my health, or I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today I can lament over all my parents didn’t give me when I was a child, or I can be grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today I can complain because I have to go to school, or I can eagerly open my mind and fill it with new tibits of knowledge.

Today, I can murmur dejectedly that I have to do housework, or I can feel honoured because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind and body and soul.

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me.

I get to choose what kind of day I will have.

So, have a great day~unless you have other plans!

~Author Unknown

 May Your Cup Always Be Full!

Stephanie, Emerging Princess

Vision Gives Pain a Purpose

Vision Gives Pain a Purpose has become my one of my many mantras.  This is a quote from one of my favourite ministers, Kris Vallotton.  It is the heart of everyone who is a Coach.  Anyone who wants to accomplish something new.  Anyone who wants to grow.

As humans, we want to give up so easily.  I am a die-harder.  I will keep at something until the cows go home.  I stayed in a bad relationship for over 23 years, for goodness sake!  My passion was misplaced, but my pain had a purpose~to give my girls a family.  If you don’t understand this quote, here are a few examples of the passion/purpose connection.

Olympic athlete Usain Bolt trains 3-4 hours each day, plus sprint training.  The daily drills prepared him mentally for many, many years.  He didn’t just wake up and decide to run in the Olympics!  Yet, despite the many long hours of training, winning a gold medal was the purpose for his pain.

*  One of my favourite Smooth Jazz singers, Maysa, took years before she recorded her first solo album.  She sang back-up for Stevie Wonder, and headlined for the R&B band Incognito before releasing an album in 1995.  Her passion for singing kept her going, learning at the feet of greatness, until her passion came to fruition.

*  Thomas Eddison conducted 9,999 experiments before he successfully created the lightbulb.  When he was asked about why he kept going after so many failures, he responded, “I have not failed.  I found 9,999 ways that won’t work”.  He was passionate about putting away candles as the main method of lighting our lives.  He pushed past the pain of “failing” 9, 900, 9,000 and even 9,999 times.  I daresay that we would probably not last past 9.

*  Personally, I made a goal almost three years ago.  It is supposed to come together later this year.  My kids have joked me about it.  At  a recent Single Mom’s event, it was used as an icebreaker.  Some days, I wonder if I was crazy for taking on this elaborate a mission, especially since so many factors are yet to be determined.  Yet, I will not be deterred.  Many

English: Nelson Mandela in Johannesburg, Gaute...

English: Nelson Mandela in Johannesburg, Gauteng, on 13 May 1998 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

have gone before me who have successfully accomplished it.  The passion of its completion burns in my psyche, and the pain of seeming setbacks is channelled into the purpose for doing each activity that is involved.

Nelson Mandela said, “It always seems impossible until it is done”.  “So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.”  Christopher Reeve penned this quote, and his passion to walk again made the pain of his every day existence have a purpose.

Do you have a goal?  Are you so passionate about accomplishing this feat, that you would not let setbacks and bumps in the road discourage you from accomplishing it?  If you do, your passion and Vision will give your Pain a Purpose!

May Your Cup Always Be Full,

Emerging Princess

Bah Humbug!

Toronto Skyline

Toronto Skyline (Photo credit: Bobolink)

Every October, as the cold weather approaches, I question my parents’ decision to immigrate to Canada.  The leaves on the trees embark on their beautiful colour spectacles, as they grasp one last hoorah.  They would rather die than face the cold days ahead.  Squirrels and other city-dwelling animals gather a little extra food to help them through the cold weather.  They do not hibernate fully in the Tdot (Toronto).  Eventually, the Canada geese even leave the country for which they were named.

My mantra is:  “Brown girl don’t like the cold”.  I mean, look where brown people are naturally located on the globe.  It’s hot, or tropical, and mangoes or coconuts are the usual native fruits.  There is also a slower pace of life.  It is not because the people are lazy, rather, they are preventing over-exertion!  Getting very tired from the heat, or even developing heat stroke is a very present reality.  That is not the case here from October to April.  Those months are Bah Humbug months to me.  And now that the Christmas Season is finished, winter is definitely upon us!

One person that I met back in October told me that he switched to winter weather thinking.  This piqued my interest, so I asked for more details.  His belief was that, if it wasn’t snoring, or there wasn’t sleet/freezing rain or hail, and if it wasn’t bitterly cold, then it was a good day.  “Hmm”, I thought, he might have a point”.  Could I possibly ENJOY winter!?

English: Tobogganing in Ottawa, Canada.

English: Tobogganing in Ottawa, Canada. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

As a kid, I went tobogganing, skating—though quite poorly, and had a blast outside.  Winters are mostly mild enough that if I bundled up well, I could still stave the cold.  The one thing that I will do is to take my grandson tobogganing. There is no shortage of things to do in Toronto and the surrounding areas during the winter.  I have scoured the events calendars, and decided that I will take in one festival-like event every two weeks, even if it is outdoors!  🙂  I figure there’s strength, and warmth, in numbers!  A special-interest course at a local high school will round off the mix.  Before long, April and the beautiful warm weather will be upon us.  H’mm, maybe I’ll even start skating again…Let’s not get carried away!

Do you like winter?  What is your favourite winter activity?   Perhaps by embracing it, you can Create a Path to Your Excellent Future!

May Your Cup Always Be Full,

Emerging Princess

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